The little things.

The skies decided to open this evening and bless us with some much needed rain. The Western Cape is in a drought, the worst recorded in history and we are preparing for day zero. Yes there has been strict water restrictions for well over a year but from the 1st of February we have been […]

Happy 20 uhm 18

Life is racing at Mach speed and it feels like I literally need to hold on to something grounded to prevent myself from getting whiplash. Wasn’t it 2014 like 5 seconds ago?Perhaps it isn’t that bad, perhaps my brain has just been set to cruise mode for the past 3 odd years. What I have […]

Mind over matter

Sitting on the couch, after eating what feels like double my weight in delectably divine food, there’s a tad of despair that this year is drawing to a close. With about 4 days left until 2018 I feel a bit flurried as to what to do?

Do I; “make the last few days count”?

Do I; “slug along and start again in 2018?”

As much as I want to stand on the roof top and be that person to shout from the top my lungs to live every single second and end 2017 with the biggest bang ever, I am not THAT person, I am however going to say this;

How about just being mindful?

Mindfulness

  1. noun
    1. the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.
    2. “their mindfulness of the wider cinematic tradition”
    3. a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

How about for the next few days we stop overthinking?  What if we stop looking for the perfect Instagram picture, or thinking about the perfect tweet or caption for that picture and just be. Be conscious and aware and then of course keep practicing this through 2018. (Yes I know it probably sounds like I’ve stepped out of the early 90’s but was it that bad?)

We love to say that you only live once and that time is such a cruel mistress or bed fellow {or what ever time is referred to.} Yet we wish it to pass and then on top of that we tend to waste it on the most obscure things. I am in no way one to talk, I spend way to much time on my phone and even when I am not on my phone I have the lingering thought at the back of my mind about what is going on on my phone.

In a time where it’s never been easier to be connected, we have never been more disconnected. We cherish the people on our phones, we speak to the “crowds” who listen with eager anticipation at whatever our keyboards spew onto their screens and praise every word as if it is a religion.

We are the brainwashed generation too wrapped up in our little smart devices to realize that there is a world outside.

Now don’t get me wrong, as with anything in life there is a time and place for everything. There are bloggers and brand influencers as well as enthusiasts that work very hard at what they do, and do it brilliantly. Yet there is a very fine, yet distinct line that needs to be drawn.

Let’s be more mindful the last few days of 2017 and carry this into 2018. The world needs more present people (and less techno zombies)

 

Reflecting

As we draw closer to the end of the year we (maybe it’s just me) we start to make lists/resolutions for the new year.

Me, well I mostly try and figure out what happened that I find myself in December of 2016 already, it was January like yesterday.

Anyhow along with lists and reflections we tend to place all our mishaps under intense scrutiny and judgement. 2016 has by no means been easy, but we easily look over the good things we’ve accomplished.

One of my New Years resolutions is always to lose weight, I also tend to beat myself up quite badly when that doesn’t pan out the way I want it.

I have come across a few people hating on themselves for not accomplishing great things this year.

Today I want to say, stop sweating the small stuff. Yes some of it is not always small. But look at what you have achieved.

You’ve made it through 2017 alive. You are here? You might not look the way you want but you’ve grown. You’ve become stronger, you’ve got to know yourself a little better. If you are a mother you’ve had the privilege to spend another year with your child(ren).

So yes, I might not have lost the weight I wanted. I might not have saved as much as I intended and my debt is pretty much still a black hole sucking my soul dry but what have I achieved?

I am happy, for the first time in almost 3 years I am happy. Yes I am still on medication but my dosages hasn’t increased. My psychiatry appointments are every 6 months and I actually laugh at my appointments instead of sobbing through the session.

My husband is still my rock, my safety and sanity. He still takes my breath away and is the one person that can make me laugh at things a little more than what is socially acceptable.

I have seen my daughter blossom into a little human that has so many unique traits while at the same time exhibiting so many of my own (and the husband’s) She teaches me so much daily and I overlook that so easily.

I have made peace with my body. (This has been a bitter pill to swallow) I have realized that self love is crucial before any change will come.

I’ve learnt that journaling and exercise can be a saving grace. Meditation is way underrated and sometimes you just need to take a nap.

So yes this year my resolutions will include all the usual but I will also be focusing a lot more on the nice.

xCx

Wanderlust not so “wander”ful

TRAVELING WITH A TODDLER When Mila was just about 3 months old we went to Amsterdam for a holiday. (Yes we are those looney parents that planned a trip overseas before the bambino had actually arrived.) Naturally I was a nervous wreck, I like my comfort zone on the best of days, I had to […]

Social media and parenting

This has been something that has been weighing on my heart heavily, and I am not going to lie to you, technology and social media scares the shit out of me. It has been a concern even before I had a child but after the events that took place this past week, I am back […]

THE CONCEPT OF HYGGE

In the beginning of the year I decided that, except for the usual lose weight, save money repetitive New Years resolutions which I usually break by the 10th of January, I am going to make it my goal to find happiness. True, make you feel warm and fuzzy on the inside, happiness. Turns out I am not alone.

So apart from extensive Ted Talks I watched on the subject I found a book as well. Strangely that excited me more than the “answers” I found on the internet. (I am a pre-historic creature that loves old school, I am convinced I’m living in the wrong century but for now let’s just say vintage brings me joy.)

Now you must have heard of hygge, I actually saw a big chainstore use the word in one of their advertisements and I am pretty sure that it’s going to become quite a trendy term.

But what does it mean?

Hygge {pronounced HUE-gah} is of danish origin and though there are many ways to describe it, the best way would be to see it simply as the Danish ritual of enjoying life’s simple pleasures. Friends. Family. Graciousness.

You see Hygge is more of a concept, a feeling, which can incorporate many things. Hygge is about atmosphere, an experience rather than about physical things. It is about the people we love, a feeling of home. A feeling that we are safe, shielded from the world and able to let your guard down.

It can be an endless conversation with an old friend or just enjoying each others silence. It can also be just you drinking hot chocolate by the fireplace in warm knitted woolen socks while just looking at the flames licking at the wood.

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There are a few materialistic things you can add to help sweeten the mood. Lighting plays an important role. Soft light that creates a warm ambience. Yes you guessed it. Candles. Other things can include a fireplace, things made out of wood, nature.

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In the book I got Meik Wiking says;

“Wood is not enough,Danes feel they need to bring the entire forest inside. Any piece of nature you might find is likely to get the hygge greenlight. Basically you want to think: How would a Viking squirrel furnish a living room?”

Examples would be covering windowsills and couches in sheepskins and animal skins and of course greenery. Throw in some books and ceramics for good measure. It’s not just about how things look but also how they feel, so think tactile add some blankets and throws. Vintage goods are also very hygge. You can pick up vintage items from second hand shops but if it’s a family heirloom with a story that comes with it, it makes it so much more appealing.

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Probably the most important thing is to be present in the moment. Switch off all technology. Yes even your cell phone, and just enjoy it for what it is. You will see finding hygge actually comes a lot easier than you think.

You can purchase The Little Book of Hygge here.

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